Money, Money, Money! Who Pays for what?!

The most stressful part of wedding planning is not only determining the budget, but also staying consistent with that budget.  Today, weddings are elaborate affairs, so the “wedding” business has boomed; therefore, every venue and vendor has amped pricing just for this occasion.   Most couples do not realize (until beginning to plan) how much a wedding will actually cost.   There are many assumptions made, like “I’ll have a cocktail party because it will be cheaper,” “I’ll have a destination wedding to save money”, or “I’ll rent a hall rather than going with an all-inclusive because it will be less expensive.”  The majority of the time, these statements are false.   It takes time and energy to really know what items will be within your budget.   (Hiring an Epic Event Planning consultant will relieve these stresses because we will do the work for you!)

 In addition to determining the budget, you have to ask your parents that dreadful question,  “How much are you willing to contribute?”   Today, it is often common for bride’s parents and groom’s parents to split the wedding costs while some are very traditional and prefer the cost to be paid mainly by the bride’s parents.   The bride and groom themselves may also want to contribute.    (Be prepared to hear your parent’s expectations of what THEY want – especially considering that they are paying for it – a very common reason of why sometimes the bride and groom choose to pay on their own!)

First things first, get those numbers together to have an overall goal in mind….

Groom’s Parent Contribution – _______________

Bride’s Parent Contribution – ______________

Bride/Groom Contribution – _______________

 Traditional Etiquette

If you are aiming to be traditional, and all parties involved agree, then here is the list of items with who should “technically” pay. 

Bride’s Family

Wedding Consultant

Invitations and Announcements

Wedding Gown and Accessories

Wedding Party, Ceremony, and Reception Florals

Photography

Videography

Entertainment (DJ or Band)

Transportation for Wedding Party and Guests

Full Reception Cost

Bride’s Gifts to the Bridal Party

Bride’s Gift to the Groom

Groom’s Wedding Ring

Groom’s Family

Bride’s Engagement and Wedding Ring

Groom’s Gift to the Bride

Groom’s Gifts to the Groomsmen

Groomsmen’s Boutonnières

Corsages for the Groom’s Family

Officiant’s Fee or Donation to the Church

Marriage License Fess

Honeymoon

Rehearsal Dinner

In addition, the Wedding Party normally pays for the following items.  

Bridal Party

Bridesmaids’ Gown and Accessories

Bridesmaid Gift to the Bride

Bridal Shower

Bachelorette Party

Groomsmen

Suite/Tuxedo Fees

Gift to the Groom

Bachelor Party

Once the expected contribution is determined, find the time to sit down together as a couple and review ALL items that will cost money.   At first, include ANY item that you would want for your IDEAL wedding.  Then, once you’ve seen how much the wedding could cost, you can begin to cut items that aren’t as important as others. 

Because this is so much work, you can call Epic Event Planning by Jessica & Kourtney to take these stressful times off of your hands, give you great tips on saving money, provide you with ideas for theme/design and vendors/venues that will work within your budget, and be sure you stay on budget throughout the planning process! 

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